These are copied directly from the LIFE Guide for Men written by Mark Laaser, Ph.D. and published by LIFE ministries at http://www.freedomeveryday.org

Safety produces the best environment for honesty and fellowship. All group members are responsible for observing these Safety Guidelines, and if they are violated, group members must confront each other in love. If an individual cannot observe the guidelines consistently or after being confronted, he will be asked to leave the forum. The well-being of the entire group is more important than any individual member.

1. It is safe to be honest. We expect all members to tell the truth.

2. It is safe to have feelings. All feelings are acceptable to God and to us.

3. We will allow safe group conversation and no graphic sexual descriptions or identifying specific clubs or pornographic magazines. We give each other feedback as long as it only reflects our own experience, strength, and hope. Therefore, we begin our feedback with "I," and not with "You." We do not give advice.

4. We do not preach. It is acceptable to share messages of spiritual strength and hope, to quote Scripture, or to make theological statements. We avoid comments that use words like "should," "always," or "never," and expressions such as "God says...," "God's will for your life is... or God will be angry if..." We all seek to follow Christ as in our own way.

5. We do not shame ourselves or others. We do not put down ourselves or anyone else.

6. Focus on yourself, not on spouse. We do not blame anyone for our sinful behavior. We take total responsiblity for our actions.

7. We abide by the principle of group confidentiality. We do not reveal the identity of other group members or any other personal information outside the group, even to our spouses. There is only one exception to this rule. If anyone discloses feelings or actions that indicate he is a possible danger to himself or to others, including minor children, we will take all necessary action outside of the forum group to report that danger and to ensure others' safety. Even more specifically, we must and will report to the proper authorities any disclosure of unreported child abuse or elder abuse, including possession of child pornography, and we cannot protect the confidentiality of illegal or "sex-offender" activity. We are very clear about these exceptions to confidentiality.